Change Your Thoughts,
Change Your Life
by Mary Jo Rapini, MEd, LPC
A brand new year presents many opportunities to help our children with the challenges that come their way.
One of the things we may not think about is the importance of
continually growing and making changes in our lives as individuals. Our
children learn by watching us. In fact, most children talk about their
own New Year's resolutions by watching and listening to their parents as
they discuss their personal resolutions. Mentoring for our children
that change is difficult, but not insurmountable, is best done with
actions, not words. Reminding your children that self-talk such as,
"can't" or "it's too difficult," can be overcome by saying new and
stronger self-talk such as, "I can do this" and "I will make these
changes."
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If you are trying to make changes, no matter what area they are in, the first work you have to do is clear your mind of the "I cant's." To help you get rid of the old thoughts that keep you stuck in the rut of can't, try these tips. |
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Old patterns are difficult to break, and no matter
what negative pattern you are trying to extinguish, you will fall off
track once in a while. This is to be expected, and rather than going
back and shaming yourself, try to catch yourself and ask yourself what
good this food, relationship, or whatever old pattern you are trying to
break free from will do for you. Rather than
indulging in the old pattern, try breathing through the moment or
distract yourself with exercise, calling a friend, or getting away from
the situation you are in. Being proactive at times of weakness helps you
accomplish your goal leading to increased confidence that you are
breaking free of your old rut.
When you change your thoughts, you change your life, your children's lives, and the lives of every person who you connect with. |
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Mary Jo Rapini, MEd, LPC, is a licensed psychotherapist and co-author with Janine J. Sherman, of Start Talking: A Girl's Guide for You and Your Mom About Health, Sex or Whatever. Read more about the book at www.StartTalkingBook.com and more about Rapini at www.maryjorapini.com.
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